relationships make life so much more enjoyable. however, relationships do require emotional needs to be met. relationships thrive when there’s emotional intimacy. these are some emotional needs that provide positive benefits for our relationship as well as our lives in general.

affection- compliment each other, express appreciation daily, show physical affection, do something nice for one another and show interest in the other person’s day.

acceptance- you embrace each other and all that you are. you are introduced to their friends and family. you are included in their whereabouts (a quick text or call: i’m busy at work today, running late). you can share your dreams. you include each other in decisions. you plan dates and activities together.

validation – validate one another’s feelings even when you don’t agree or understand. choose curiosity and ask open-ended questions.  it makes a huge difference when your partner feels heard, understood and validated.

trust – for a relationship to succeed, you must be able to trust each other. according to John Gottman, the criteria for trustworthiness are honesty transparency, accountability, actions and alliance.  

safety and security – truly believing that your partner will show up for you and has your best interests at heart. knowing that you have support in your choices. showing mutual respect for your boundaries. being able to freely share your feelings and opinions.

space – you have your own time to yourself. you have your own hobbies and interests and you are able to do activities with other people. you have your own village of people that can be your support system. 

prioritizing all of these things will contribute to a deeper connection in a relationship.